Life's Love Affair

The Slowfade is quiet yet heart-wrenching, the silence is loud and you’ll be left with questions unanswered 

Lately, I’ve just been through it and I’ve been wondering what’s worse between Slowfade and Ghosting.

Slowfade first had a name after I listened to A Ruth B song about it and I had to look it up and I was just like This is Ghosting’s evil twin or better depends on how you view it because unlike Ghosting that you never hear from them again, Slowfade is they’re there until they’re not, no warning signs or maybe few if you’re paying attention then Radio Silence and your thoughts. If you have an overactive imagination like me then good luck.

What is the Slowfade?

The Collins dictionary defines Slowfade as  “gradually decreasing contact with a romantic interest until you completely lose touch with them”.

So think: fewer texts, less enthusiasm, dodging plans, and ultimately disappearing without officially ending things.

Slow fade is like watching a candle burn out, you know it’s coming, and it still stings.

Signs you’re being Slowfaded

And why do people Slowfade

So how do you know if you’re in a slowfade situation?

These are the warning signs to watch out for 

1. They stop texting first
2. Conversations go from deep and amazing to radio silence for weeks
3. Plans keep getting rescheduled or cancelled
4. They act distant and don’t say why
5. You feel like you’re begging for attention

So if you’re constantly justifying their behaviour then it’s not right

Now for the million dollar question.

Why do people slow fade? Why not just come out and say you’re not interested.

A reason people slow fade is they’re not ready to have that conversation that they’re not on the same page as you. They’re not ready to feel like the bad guy so they should pull away. My two cents.

How to Get Over a slowfade

And take back your power. We all need it,we need the peace, not the confusion.

Call it what it is

Don’t sugarcoat it. They’re not “busy” Or confused, they’re fading. Recognising that helps you stop hoping for closure from someone who won’t give it and start the healing process.

Feel the Feels

Cry, rant, binge that ice cream, write a journal entry or an unsent letter. Releasing the emotions is part of healing. You’re not “too sensitive”, you’re just not emotionally avoidant like they are.

Take Control back

There’s no need waiting for a final message, create your own closure. Mute, block, archive. The door doesn’t need to slam, but it needs to close.

Redefine your Standards

A slow fade can actually be a gift in disguise because it shows you who not to give your time or heart to next time. You now have a new dating non-negotiable, clear communication or nothing.

The Slowfade may be subtle but it is very brutal and still stings. It leaves behind a quiet kind of heartbreak, one built on “what ifs” and unread messages. You can recognise the signs.
You can choose clarity.
And most importantly, you can walk away before they fully disappear.

You write the ending and close the chapter for the better that are coming

Let’s talk in the comment section

Have you ever been slowfaded? How did you deal with it? Share your experience in the comments? You never know who might need your story right now.